[Triggers warning: Feelings of inadequacy, not being good enough]
For the longest time I used get down on myself because I wasn’t flexible to make my elbows touch and since they couldn’t do that, I couldn’t possibly be a good rope bottom. I know dozens of rope bottoms who can’t do suspensions or…
For all the bottoms. This series will be reblogged.
In part one, we covered how to build one half of the hip harness. It was left as homework to mirror the tie on the other hip. You now have your rope bottom in the full David Lawrence hip harness, with both hips tied. Let’s get them in the air!
Some months ago, DCRope brought David Lawrence in as part of his book tour for reBound (great images, go and buy a copy!). He presented at our monthly get together where he showed off some of his newest ties. Of particular interest was his hip harness. Intended as a response to FetishMonkey’s extremely popular gunslinger harness, David’s is similarly versatile in how it can be rigged, but has the added benefit of being really quick to tie and generally requiring less rope.
I am really gaining alot of interest in this topic. I am starting with losing weight toning and getting flexible again like i was in cheerleading. but this is my ultimate goal not a stupid dress or jeans my goal is kinbaku. any advice or information or resources or people i can talk to would be oh so helpful. your blog is amazing.
Thank you, S&S. This blog would be better if I’d remember to post more frequently.
In general, toning and flexibility are good things to improve, and while it can make the difference between a good and a great rope bottom, it’s not strictly necessary. Experienced riggers have little difficulty tying & suspending bigger bodies. We’re all sexual creatures and can all enjoy rope.
That being said, a bottom’s fitness is generally what determines the amount of time in the air and the… extremity of the tie.
As for resources, I’ll point you where I point everyone. FetLife.com (free kink forum-not dating site). A simple search will give you all your local riggers and clubs. If you live near a major city, you’ll likely find a rope bite, munch, and even dedicated events.
Rope education is generally best done face-to-face and hands on. Shibaricon in May, is an amazing rope education event. Here on the east coast (us), there are multiple summer camps and monthly large events.
Don’t be shy. Introduce yourself to the local community. Watch your local riggers and talk to the local bottoms. It won’t be long before you’re inverted in the air.
You have a fantastic blog! Much much respect. Is there anywhere to purchase pre-dyed rope? I'm super new at this and finally got my wife to agree to try but don't have time to dye. I want to do this before she changes her mind...
Yes, there are bunches of vendors, but here’s the deal. If you are new, I recommend people just buy 150’ of white nylon from your hardware store. 3/16-1/4” (4-6mm) in diameter. Cut into 5-6 equal lengths (27/30’)
It’s cheap and soft. If your wife doesn’t like rope bondage, you’ve got emergency rope for your car. If she does like it, use fabric dyes and you’ve got something fancy (dying rope is dead simple, just follow the fabric instructions)
Nylon is machine washable/dry able too. I always recommend nylon to start. As you develop a passion for this, then you can start build a natural rope collection : silk, bamboo, jute, hemp, etc. experienced riggers love natural fibers as they hold knots super well, but can be between .50-1.50$ a foot.
It was awesome, but has come to a close. Sitting here at the hotel bar, getting gouged for a drink and passable sushi, I am reflecting on how this poor blog has languished. Time for a comeback, bitches!
Now that the brat and I are living together, with our very own dedicated play space, original content should be coming at a more regular basis. Already in the queue is the long over due tutorial on David Lawrence’s woven hip harness, more entries in my ‘everybody’s a critic’ series, and other general hotness. In prep are my thoughts on Shibaricon, a few of the specific classes, and my reviews of the stage performances from the opening ceremony and Graydancer’s cabaret.